Returning to Divorce and "Re-Marriage"

Just wanted to share a short exchange I had recently on Facebook about the issue of divorce and "re-marriage".

Poster:

Everything is just great with the church if you pay them enough for an annulment. Although it doesn't affect my family personally, it does many of my friends that were divorced from their first spouse through no fault of their own. The fact that a bunch of never married clergy men can make these rules is just plain stupid. I don't buy the notion that Jesus made this law for the Catholic Church. These same clergymen claim that God is all forgiving but refuse to apply this to re-married divorcees. This makes them nothing but hypocrites. 
And we wonder why Southeast Christian Church has so many former Catholics joining

My reply:

Butch, God will forgive any sin that we ask him too and those who have broken their marriage vows are no different. They must, however, do the same as everyone else which is turn away from the sin. It isn't enough to ask for forgiveness knowing full well you're going to carry on in the sin regardless. The Church, as a mother, recognises that in some circumstances separation isn't possible and so asks the two people in question to live as brother and sister.

Remember, that the rules on adultery come straight from Jesus' mouth (Matthew 19, Mark 10). And Jesus doesn't just go around forgiving people with a magic wand. He asked for conversion of heart. Remember the woman at the well accused of adultery? What did Jesus tell her at the end? Go and sin no more. So with those who have broken their married vow the Church too does not condemn them, but welcomes them in to the confessional, asks them to be faithful to the vows they made, and also asks them to "go and sin no more".